It’s a new year, and I’m making annual affirmations for myself. Everyone should re-evaluate once a year. The idea came from my coffee club, which I attend twice a month on Zoom. The group talked about resolutions they didn’t complete last year, and I liked the idea that we still had the opportunity to carry out those resolutions in the new year. We don’t have to give up. There are some things I just need to try again, and some things I need to keep reminding myself. We all have them.
One of the things I’d like to keep trying is maintaining my daily affirmations. Whether I write them down or just think of them in the shower or during a walk, they’re important reminders that I matter. Here are just a few that work for me and may also help jump-start your own list:
- I’m enough for myself
- I believe in myself because I have overcome many obstacles and challenges. I’m proud of this
- I am worthy of life and love
- I have enough confidence to refuse to give up on anything
- I’m brave
- I love who I have become
- I struggle, but I don’t let my struggles get the best of me
- I have learned to be enough for myself, in part by accepting my challenges
- I know those challenges don’t make me better or worse; they are just a part of me
- It has taken me years to learn that I believe in myself and realize Disability is just a word, not who we are
- I’m an independent person
- I’m good enough for the people who give me a try, whether it’s family or an acquaintance
These words replay to remind me that I’m just like everyone else. It has taken me a long time to see that just because I have a disability, I’m not less of a person. It can be hard to stay positive, keep yourself focused, and find your worth when you have a disability.
Many times in life, I lost track of myself temporarily because I didn’t feel like life gave me a fair purpose. For a time, I thought people only saw my disability. Over my lifetime, some people stood behind me and supported me. On the other side, some people weren’t so optimistic about what a young child or young adult should do when she has a disability. Educators told me I was taking up space in their class and for other kids who can learn. They didn’t think I deserved the same education, but if they got to know me, they’d see I had as much potential as my classmates.
So, how did I start to focus myself? First, I had to get those naysayers out of my head and tell myself they would win if I defined myself by their false impression of me. This just gave me my purpose. Whenever someone was a naysayer to me, I gave everything I had to prove them wrong.
Then, when those people came back around to see that I overcame my obstacles, which they didn’t expect of me, they felt like fools. My purpose has constantly been proving people wrong, but when it came to proving myself wrong, that was a whole different ballpark.
I didn’t know how to tell myself that I was good enough. So, having these affirmations in my head replaces the naysayers. Rather than the snap judgements of others that used to play on a loop in my head, I repeat what I know of myself, which is positive.
If you are like I was, I invite you to practice affirmations of all the positive things in your life. Play them on repeat in your mind. It’s okay, don’t be shy. We all have things to work on and remind ourselves. You don’t have to say them out loud, they can just be for you. After all, we live in our own minds and we deserve for that to be a healthy space.
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