I want to encourage everyone to love themselves. To love ourselves and our lives with disabilities, we need to understand our disabilities and how to work with them, not against them. Even though you see your disability as a weakness, it should be one of your best friends. You will be companions for life. Even the best roommates sometimes quarrel, but you work through the challenges.- Marie W.O.W.C.P.
A question I often get is, “How do I do all that I do?” Then they explain they wouldn’t know if they could do what I do if they had my challenges. I tell them that they will find a way to do their best, and you can go beyond that, just because I don’t mean I want to give up the life I was given because of your challenges. Something my family instilled in me is the strength they have. There are times when I would like to give up. When I feel like I want to give up, I kick myself in the behind. I was taught never to give up on myself. I was also taught that if there is a challenge in my way, never give up on myself or the challenge.
The challenges I was given have been the fuel that has kept me going throughout life. Yes, there have been times when I have forgotten to add fuel. I try not to fear life and strive not to give up; what helps me is my spirit. My fighting spirit has also seen me through my challenges. Not many people have a fighting spirit, but I was born with one.
If someone had asked me years ago how to describe my disability and the challenges that it gave me, I would have said it was the one part of me that I wished I could get rid of. If you asked me today what I would say about my disability, I would say it is the one thing that empowers me. So what happened between then and now?
Life is challenging with cerebral palsy, but what about the challenges that arise between those challenges? Such as adding the life stressor that everyone experiences, whether they are disabled or not. These are the most challenging times for me. I am equipped for life with a disability. Still, it’s the life challenges that are woven into those everyday challenges that I wasn’t prepared for—the aging with CP, getting other genetic disabilities, and illness. Then there are life stressors, which I know none of us are ready for, but for those who already have stressors of their own, the added ones I wasn’t equipped for. I have always been equipped to handle the things that came with having CP, such as the challenges of the spasms, learning to walk, the falls, the breaks, the surgeries, the therapies, and making sure people know I’m more than my disability.
I needed to learn how to control my emotions. People don’t talk about the emotional side of having CP. While people with CP have normal mental abilities, there are times when it doesn’t seem like it to me. As much as my parents never held back from events, it was still because there were milestones that you have as a child, a teen, or a young adult that I missed out on due to CP or being sheltered from things in life because of the CP. Those times added to my stress because they were the times when I felt different.
Adding unnecessary stress to myself not only made me feel different, but it also made my CP act up, which caused it to throw me off balance and make me fall.
Sometimes I can’t help but feel stressed by things like ensuring I have enough money to live on, reading or watching the news, and having the PCA I need. As much as I love being independent, the challenges weren’t what I thought they would be.
With all the small challenges between the more significant ones, it’s still worth knowing that no matter what challenges I might face, they are still worth overcoming.
OUR BEAUTIFUL CHALLENGES 