A question like this is tricky. I shouldn’t be afraid because I lived when I shouldn’t have lived. When I was born, so many people didn’t think I would live. However, I’m human, so I am scared of many things. I’m afraid my fear of my disability will take over, and I will quit living. I’m worried that I will gain so much weight and lose my independence. I’m scared of losing people that I care about. I’m afraid after my parents are gone, none will be there to help me with my life. I fear that I’m so scared of not leaving a mark in the world because people just see me as having a disability. Yes, while disability may be part of me, my disability is not who I am. Disability is just a word. Suppose you take the “DIS” out of disability. In that case, you have “ABILITY.” no matter who I am or who you are, we all have our own unique “ABILITY” to live in a world that is made of all different kinds of uniqueness, and the disability community is just one.
For so long, I was afraid of not being an independent person because of my disability. If I wasn’t going to be independent, it wasn’t going to be because of my disability. It would be because of my stubbornness. I never wanted to accept myself as a person with a disability. There was a time in my life when it was a challenge for me to admit that I had a disability. I wanted so badly to forget the disability and be like my other peers. I was okay with my disability growing up, but I never wanted to socialize with others with disabilities. My family, friends, and teachers would always try their hardest to get me to be social with others with disabilities, but I was so stuber I wouldn’t go near or get close to anyone with a disability; it just got worse as I got older. It wasn’t until I had no choice but to push myself out of my comfort zone and grow up that I forced myself to see what it was like to socialize in a community that I belonged to but was too scared or was being discriminated against in a community that was a part of who I was. I was now more afraid of being in the disabled community, and I was ready to run back to the able-bodied community.
I was afraid of not being accepted into a community that I never received. When I decided to stand up and be part of it, I thought it would be accessible for the cerebral palsy community to accept. The community just accepting me wasn’t the case. Some people welcomed me, but sometimes, I just wanted to return to the able-body community. I didn’t know the purpose of staying in the cerebral palsy community, but over time, I realized what the purpose was: for me to grow. With every new step I took in the cerebral palsy community, I made myself more substantial and more accepting of a community that I was not accepting of.
It’s been nearly ten years since I took my first steps to accept who I am entirely. Life has fallen into place in the last ten years and brought me to where I need to be. By accepting it, I got what I wanted and my independence. I also got over my fear, which was the fear of who I was.
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